My first thought in reading your response is "How can he even compare the two scenarios?"

Your situation seems completely different from the Spears-Federline saga.

No offense, but the lifestyles and the details of your case vs. theirs presents no room for comparison.

From your written account of your personal experiences in life as a father who raised his two children on his own with no help and dealt with a failing and financially unstable mother, it is safe to say you are no Kevin Federline and she was no Britney Spears.

She is a multi millionaire who was used by this man/boy so that he could have access to her fortune. He has no major accomplishments under his own belt and has rode on her coattails since day one. Before him she seemed together. While with him and following their split, she seemed broken.

Let's not forget he ditched his first serious g/f, his first daughter and unborn child just so he could go on tour with Spears when they first met. Great father, huh?

Although I never said and never will say that her behaviors should have been excused, I do feel that everyone deserves a chance to right their wrongs. I also believe that regardless of what she has or has not done for those boys of hers in the past, they need her as a parent. Trust me on that. Deep down, all children want their parents no matter how messed up the parents may be.

In saying this, my point is that she should have the opportunity to redeem herself and possibly even get shared custody as a result of her proven efforts.

Just because she is a woman or a celebrity should not determine the lengths she has to go to in order to accomplish great change in her life for the better.

I would say the same if "Britney" was "Brad!" It does not matter to me whether or not the parent at hand is male or female.

What I have a problem with when it comes to the subject of money, is not that Britney is responsible for paying child support. She SHOULD pay child support as only a start to what $$$ she spends ON HER CHILDREN. (Not her ex)

I have issues with the fact that the child support is only a small portion in comparison to the amount she is having to spend not on her own lawyers and advisors who were appointed to get her on the right track, but instead, Kevin's attorneys who are fighting against her.

It is like paying the other team to score runs against you so you will lose the game. It just doesn't make sense.

Kevin seems to be a user in my opinion. Just like many women are, as you so honestly pointed out.

Like a "gold digger" he was in it for the money from the beginning, spending her cash on anything and everything he wanted. He continues to do that now.

What saddens me about this case is that she is fulfilling her obligation in some ways by paying him the money for child support and he, in turn, seems to be neglecting his obligations as a dad. Rather than spending quality time with those boys, which is what they need more than anything right now, he uses Britney's money to pay for nannies and au pairs to tote his kids around all day while he focuses on a career that seems non-existent. He reportedly also spends much of his time, not at home with his kids or at the park with his kids, but on the party circuit "promoting his music." Ha!

Britney is also funding much of this, according to what has been reported.

What is equally troubling is that she was paying HIS way long before she went off the deep end and lost her children. Why?

I also disagree with Britney having to pay her father to be "her father."

Kudos to you rddogoli for being a "father" to your children. Mine was not for most of my childhood, so I can sincerely appreciate your dedication.

However, my opinions, though biased (which are allowed in blogging) are not slanted for the reasons in which you indicated you believed.

I have the utmost respect for anyone who steps up to the plate and does what they should as a parent even when the other parent does not, even when it seems impossible at times to make it on one income. I respect that because I have been there as a mother of two beautiful children myself.

P.S. For the record, being a strong minded, opinionated woman does not necessarily mean that I am a feminist man-hater :) It just means that I am a confident person who is not afraid to share my thoughts on certain subjects that call to me and this was one of those times.